Baby Blues

Having a baby is I would say the best feeling in the world, there's nothing that could top it. As a woman you feel this little life grow and develop inside of you for hopefully the full nine months, you are there evey step of the way. Eating, drinking, breathing for that little life growing inside of you protecting it the best you can. So that moment when you finally meet your baby that you have been attached to for so long, is the most special moment you will experience. With this you feel bucket loads of joy and happiness, feeling like nothing in the world could touch you and bring you down. 

With a new baby comes lots of excited family members and friends that too cannot wait to meet the new addition. And too right they should be excited and how normal is their eagerness to come and see you and baby. It's lovely showing off and sharing your newborn with those closest and those that care. The thing is no one really keeps and close eye on the mother in all this, sure midwives and health visitors are checking the mother over, but family members, friends, don't really pay attention to the mother. How's she is feeling, her emotions I mean it's a big deal what she has been through. The love and connection with her and her baby is also a big deal she may start feeling a bit emotional with all the commotion so I have a message based on my personal experience that all new mothers can relate too... 

It's not unusual to be laughing and then be in tears the next and maybe biting someone's head off five minuets later, it's also not unusual to wanna pick your newborn up and take him/her away for five for a moment of being just you two. Because for nine months it has just been you two. These are just the baby blues and are completely normal feelings. Some people unfortun will not understand, you need to sit them down and tell them, tell them that everything's a bit Much, that you can't help the way you are feeling and that it's not your fault, because believe me it's not your fault it's the normal emotions of a new mum no matter what number baby. People will understand if you explain, you just have to be open and honest. 

With all the visitors and little helpers you get just "lending a hand" or "giving you a break" doing things for your baby you may start to feel unable or not good enough to do things for your baby, like everyone else can do it better. This is completely normal too, remember you can your the best person to be doing things for your child no one can top you in their eyes. 

These people are just only trying to help and are excited about the new arrival but if you do need anyone to back off then just explain politely how you are feeling and to back down a little and they will, they will understand. 

The important thing to remember is that jthese are just the baby blues will only last for a few days, this don't mean you will get post at depression, however if your still this way for weeks then maybe speak to your health visitor or family members. 

I've had a touch of the baby blues myself I was an emotional roller coaster but once I opened up I felt better. And they are now thankfully gone and I am back to my old self. 

Talking really helps, trust me. 

Lots Of Love 

Beth...xxx