Dealing With Negative Comments #2

It's been over 5 months since I wrote this blog post HERE about dealing with negative comments. That post had so much amazing feedback on Facebook, twitter and emails and also the National Ankylosing Spondylitis Society Facebook shared the link to my post there and I had amazing comments. It is one of our most read post and I think the reason why is because its one of those things that chronic illnesses people get 99% of the time but yet no one really talks about it.

Since that post I have been diagnosed with Colitis which I have written about HERE. So I have had a whole new experience of different types of crap comments. It has been harder to deal with it this time to be honest as I think I have gotten used to the comments about my Back but with the Colitis it is all sort of new to me. I have all new symptoms, medications with side effects, have to watch what I eat and have canceled so many plans because of a flare up. I still get the "exercise and your back pain will be cured", "You're too young to have arthritis", "You don't need your medication", "Take Painkillers and your be fine" but now I have a whole new type of comments related to my Colitis such as "Just take your Asacol and eat whatever", "You're eating the wrong food", "It is just IBS", "It will just go away if you loose weight". It has only been a few months since I was Diagnosed with Colitis so I don't really know how it will be controlled and treated. I am on a trial medication and then I go back to see my consultant to see where I go from there.

There is one comment that I have even been told by a "Doctor" and family members ect.... Oh your Depression and Anxiety are the reason you have a bad back and bad stomach. I went to see a doctor at a Pain Management Clinic and I never felt so small and offended in my life. He said it all down to Depression but if he read hes notes properly he would of seen that I was not depression for the past 3 years and my depression has only come back at the start of this year because I'm finding it extremely hard to deal with illnesses ect so its made me very depressed. I'm very very lucky my GP is the best doctor I have ever seen, he is so understanding and makes me feel like he is generally worried and concerned. My GP made me realized that going back on Anti Depressants are going to help as I spent ages being against going back on them and since I have been on them, I have felt like I can cope better. He always books double appointment so He can go through all of my illnesses and make sure my medication is up to date and right ones ect. I truly don't think I would cope if I had another GP. 

I'm finding it a lot harder to blog weekly as when I have a back and colitis flare up, I'm in agony and last thing I can do is sit on the comp and write. The NASS Facebook page is really helpful and also on Instagram there is lots of people suffering with chronic illnesses and it helps knowing that we are just normal people who post random pictures on Instagram ect. I've had someone say " Why are you on Facebook, twitter, Instagram and using your iPhone when you're sick" and I was like what you on about and they replied "Surely if you in pain you can't use your phone"... People like that are so uneducated and bloody rude who don't think before they open their mouths. 

Having a blog with Bethany has really helped me cope with my illnesses and knowing I'm not the only one. If you have chronic illness please email, twitter, Instagram or comment on the post as I would love to speak and know all the tips and trick to ignore negative comments and rude people. 

Love Katie x 

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Preparing For Family Wedding

Once again we are so sorry we haven't posted a blog in weeks. We knew May was going to be a busy month but I don't think we really knew how busy it would be. Now everything is all over and done with and we can finally have a less busy month in June. Last weekend was Beth's Sister Wedding on 23th May but it was all go go on 27th May. I traveled down to Essex on the Thursday (23rd) and Beth, Bella & Ava was there at the Station to get me then we got taxi back to Beth's and soon as I unpacked it was manic. Myself, Beth, Beth's Sister and Mother had a spray tan that evening, then the girls went to bed, Tommy came home, we had dinner and then went to Beth's bedroom to watch TV then we had an early night as Friday was another jammed packed.  

Myself and Bethany enjoying a Costa

So on Friday Tommy was working so it was just myself, Beth and the girls and we went to Lakeside for the day. It was the first time that us girls had a full day to do what we want on a weekday and it was an amazing day. First of all we meet up with Beth's Mother and Sister as her sister needed last min wedding items so Beth went and helped them in Debenhams so myself, Bella and Ava walked around and done some shopping. Once Beth sister was all sorted myself, Beth and the girls went off to do our own shopping then we went and had lunch then to the Disney store as I promised Ava then obviously we went to Primark as who can't do a Primark shop. Poor Ava wasn't well and kept having to go to the loo and Beth guessed she has a Water infection which it did turn out to be but as Ava doesn't has nappies or pulls up we kept having to run to the toilet bless her so in the end I ran to superdrug to get some pull ups so she didn't have to keep running to the toilets. Then we went to Eden to have our nails done, Bella was fast asleep in her pram and Ava was still in pain and we had a "accident" in the salon but once she was fine I gave Ava my phone to watch Surprise eggs on YouTube and she sat next to me. I had an Shellac which didn't take long so once I was ready to took Bella to change her nappy and Ava for a wee (even though she had on a pull up lol) and Beth had full set of Acrylics so she was abit longer. Once we was all done we went to Costa then went to wait for a taxi to get home. We didn't get home til 5ish so it was a long day. Once again it was all go go soon as the girls went to bed. That evening myself, Beth, her mum and sister had a pre wedding pamper drink night. I done Beth's, Her sister and mother toenails and Beth sister nails and Beth washed my hair and put in sleep in rollers. We actually went to bed at a reasonably time as we knew the next day was going to bed busy as. 

Ava Lily ready to go shopping with her new handbag

Mummy & Daughter Selfie in Lakeside

Friday night//pre wedding girls night

23th May The Wedding..Jesus this was one hell of an hectic day. Bethany done 2 Bridesmaids, 2 flower girls and the Bride hair including herself and I done The bride, two Bridesmaid and my make up, so we was in the kitchen. It was like Beth and I little salon going on we had it all organised then as the morning went on the house was getting busy and more full up with family members which I have no idea how I didn't have a panic attack but being around Beth calms me down. We literally had 10 mins for myself, the Bridesmaids, The Bride and Parents of the Bride to all get dressed in one bedroom it was so hectic. The day was a lovely day and the party after was good. I didn't really drink much as my back wasn't feeling too good but in all we all had an amazing time. The day after was hectic as well to be honest but a good hectic if that makes sense. I came home on the Monday pretty early so that Tommy, Beth and the girls can have a family day out alone as they didn't really see each other much over the weekend. 

Bella & Mummy getting ready for the wedding

Aunty & Niece Selfie

So now things are less busy we can both hopefully start blogging often. My laptop is still broken but luckily have access to My mother's Computer but it is in the office downstairs and most of the time my back kills when I sit here so its not often I come on the computer. But when I do I try and write a few posts so I am prepared.

Here's a picture of Myself, Beth, Tommy and the girls.

I shall see if Beth will do a post about Wedding hair ect seeing as she is a hairdresser and it was her first wedding to do hair. I thought she done amazing and handled the stress well. Hopefully try and get some more wedding post up like our outfits ect. Hope you all are well and have an amazing June.

Love Katie x 

Life Lately/Birthday/Health

       

Life has been bloody crazy lately, it was my birthday on 30th April then that weekend I went to Essex and that was a perfect weekend. I had mixed emotions on my birthday to the point where I decided to not go for a meal like I've always done and seeing as I didn't have my brother, sister in law and nieces around I thought there is no need to celebrate, in fact my Colitis was bad that day so wasn't a good day anyways. 

Previous to my birthday, Beth has been telling me she got me a birthday surprise and me being not one to have surprises or anyone make much effort on my birthday I honestly didn't have a clue. I don't like attention and I'd much prefer letting someone else take main stage. I love nothing better than buying gifts for people and making them happy but when people do that for me I have no idea how to react because it leaves me speechless as I'm not used to it. So when I arrived to Essex it was mid afternoon and rather hectic with Ava, Bella & including their two cousins so Beth decided to give my pressies, card and surprise once girls gone to bed and tommy was home. 

This amazing homemade cake was my surprise. Beth knows I didn't get a cake for my birthday and I haven't for ages and I can't remember the last time I blew out candles so I was literally so shocked and happy. I wished she took a picture of my face because I didn't know what to say. No one has ever made effort like this for me and Beth even made my perfect cake. I also got two very lovely personalisd cards which I love, A lovely photo album which was full of pictures of my Nieces and a Soap & Gloary Birthsy Set. I was so shocked, overwhelmed and happy, all my gifts had so much thought behind them. The Photo Album with pictures of my Nieces and some of Beth and Tommy literally made me so emotional as we don't like close and I miss them all very much so this gift was the best ever because I now have a photo album to look at when I'm feeling sad and also Beth left empty bits so I can fill up so I can have pictures of the girls as the grow up through out the year. I blew my candles out and wished for a pain free sleep hahah.. That's how you know you have chronic illnesses. 

My health has been abit all over the place. So my back been the same and I'm on new medication called Gabapentin  and so far they seem to be working. Along with Co-Codamol, Tramadol and Gel applied through the day to my back. My Colitis hasn't been good to be honest, I saw a totally different consultant who decided to discharge me totally. I was so pissed off because I've always seen the same person but this one didn't have a bloody clue. I went to my GP and he rang the department up at the hospital and has wrote a letter. My GP was very angry aswel and couldn't understand why that person discharge me when I'm still at early stages and on period trial with Asacol. The Asacol seems to work but I've been so bloated and had other symptoms which I won't go into as TMI but it's not good at the mo. 

Moving on to other health stuff, so my depression! My antibiotics have been up to 150MG and they seem to be working and when I'm good I'm very good but  but when I'm down I'm extremely low. I hope it starts to settle down soon. Other random stuff... I've got an ultra sound in few weeks as there was an Ovarian Cyst found on my right ovary which was picked up on an MRI scan I had nearly a year ago and I only just got told!! I've suffered with ovary/womb/women issues for years and yeas so touch wood the cyst has cleared up by itself. 

How beautiful is Bella Mai who I can't believe is 5 months old in few days. I didn't realise until I had Nieces how quickly they grow up and time flies. I'm back to Essex next Thursday as it is Beths sister wedding next Saturday. We are having a spray tan on Thursday, getting our nails done at Lakeside on Friday and all dressed up for the wedding on Saturday. Obviously Beth is bridesmaid and she is wearing an beautiful dress, il see if she can do a blog post on it because it's really a lovely dress for weddings/events ect. As for myself I brought a dress from a Brand called AX Paris, they are in new look, very and Asos and are very sort of bodycom Going out dresses. I found a Navy midi dress which I fallen in love with and it took me 6 months to find out. I'm not overly confident, I don't like short dresses, I hate my arms, I hate my belly and don't like much colours on me so this was a challenge but this one ticked all the boxes. I shall do a blog post as its made someone very shy not confident low self eastern to feeling amazing, confident and happy just by this one dress. Plus it was a good price so I shall do a post next week. 

I still haven't got my laptop fixed so it is hard to do blog posts. I use the blogger app on my phone but I loose interest and it annoys me when it crashes sometimes and don't save the post arghhh! I can use the computer downstairs in the office but it's not the most fastest of comps so I only use that once a week or so. That's all been happening, I say all but I feel boldly exhusated and drained this week. I've had at least one medical appointment a week, it's so many family birthdays in May so I've been having to go into town to get cards, gifts and send them ect. I've been on the spring cleaning around the house and clearing out stuff. I've de clutter and helped mum sort her office and bedroom as she isn't the most organised of people so I helped her as my OCD/organised/tidy person kicked in haha!!! 

Hope you all are having a good May even though I feel like it has flown past. It was my dads 50th birthday yesterday and my brother birthday on Sunday so it's birthdays. The weather seems to be getting nicer but I'm a winter girl. Give me rain, blanket, cuppa tea, on the sofa over the sun any day! 

Love Katie x 

Girly Day Out

Sorry I haven't blogged for so long. Haven't got my laptop sorted yet and I rarely go on my Computer in my home office plus I have had lack of motivation and no idea what to write but today I was to share these photos of me, my Nieces and Beth two weeks ago when I went down for the weekend and we had an girlies day out at Lakeside.

Bella Mai is nearly 5 months old,she is so tiny for her age but is so alert and advance. Over the few days I changed her bum, dressed her, fed her ect and I loved it. Even if she was sick all over me and even in my hair haha. I love her so much. 

Ava Lily is my little best friend. She is so grown up now and she loved our girly day out. We had nandos and Ava eaten it all and had the best time. We went shopping after and she picked up some sunglasses in Primark as she loves sunglasses. Ava was such a good girl, of course she had her moments like all toddlers do but on the whole she was good. We all was wearing our Converses apart from Bella so we looked like triplets ha. 

This is myself and Bethany aka my best friend and sister in law. We just had continuous laughter and so much fun. We brought the same joggers and tops in Primark as we both has the exact same taste and weirdly we are the same sizes in clothes and shoes. This was the first time that myself, Beth and the Girls spent the whole day together. Tommy was on a stag do all day so we took advantage of being free ladies for the day. Bella Mai was an angel and slept pretty much most of the time in Lakeside. 

We treated ourself to a bottle well two bottles of rose from marks & Spencer's which was lovely. We got back about 6ish and Tommy came back not long after, the girls got ready for bed, had cuddles with us and off they both went to bed. Myself and Beth sat down with the glass of rose and it was so nice. Usually Beth been pregnant or antibiotics and even though I shouldn't be drinking with my medication, I made sure I didn't have much painkillers that day. It was the best weekend ever and it's only a week til I go down next for 5 days I can't wait. 

Girly days are the best. Although saying that we both love our Tommy lots and he would of loved to join us on our girly day so next time he can join us, be our shopping bag holder and join us in nandos hahaha!! 

Love Katie x

Unknown Talent Shelly?

Many of you may have tuned in to loose woman today. On the show was Michael flatly, apparently my mother in law wants to give him a run for his money :) 

When making plans to watch loose

woman my mother in law Shelly had no idea she would be making a personal appearance Irish dancing.... 

She did so well! Such a good sport! Maybe they will have you on the panel next shell what you think? 

LotsOfLove 

Beth...xxx 

Perfect pads!

This month I got my usual visit from Mother Nature just when I'm about to settle down for a comfy night cuddling up in bed with my Mr, so yes Mother Nature came knocking at the most inconvenient time once again. Obviously I reached for my usual choice of always across the room and got ready for a few days of pain and discomfort. 

About a day in I ironically hear that my mother in law Shelly was raving at home about the new always infinity after trying them out ( I know me and my mother in law having monthlys at the same time...spooky). Tired with discomfort of my unusual pads I thought there is no harm in trying them... It couldn't get any worse. I got my Tommy to drive me to the nearest supermarket so I could collect myself a pack of these comfy pads like a child I couldn't wait to get home and line my undies with this new improved product.  This is the moment I realised I've grown up I used rush home to play with my newest toy/gadget eat my favourite sweets or try my new lipgloss now I can't wait to get home to try knicker pads... 

However may I say it was worth it! The advert for these bad boys and my mother  in laws opinion rings true. They are the most amazing pads I have ever tried! They are so comfortable, you don't know you have one on. I infact almost forgot what unpleasantries was going on downstairs. This is also the first time I can say these pads are well worth the retail price. They are worth every penny. A lot of people wear tampons because they don't like the messy "nappy" feeling of pads, but with these you get none of that I can guarantee that this will put maybe half or more of tampon users back on the side of pads.. Well it would me if i ever wore tampons. My sister and Katie even tried these out following my recommendations and loved them! 

All I have left to say is why put up with an uncomfortable week each month? You no longer have to so don't let yourself. Get yourself down to any supermarket boots or superdrug and purchase these perfect pads and have a pleasant call from Mother Nature ... For once:) 

Lots Of Love 

Beth...xxx